Happy is as Happy Does

It’s that time of year again. Everyone is making resolutions or setting goals, reflecting on their progress last year and how to do better this year.

While I am all for wanting to do better, I do take issue with the way most people are talking about their goals. Over the past few days I have seen 100’s, if not 1000’s of twitter posts, Facebook status updates, blog posts and emails related to 2011 goals and almost all of them have one thing in common.

They are completely self-centered.

I will do this, I will do that, I won’t do this, I will get that. It goes on and on. What is wrong with that you ask? Shouldn’t it be about me? Well…. NO. I hate to break it to you, but making it about you is not the path to progress, success or happiness. The only way to get what you want in life is to get enough other people what they want. Take a look at your 2011 goals, how many of them are really about serving someone or even something outside of yourself? Really. Take a look.

Don’t take my word for it. Every great thinker in history has said the same thing. The way to get what you want is to get enough other people what they want. Not what you want them to want, or what others want them to want, what they really want.

“It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed”, Napoleon Hill

“You Can Only Get What You Want, If You Help Enough Other People Get What They Want” Zig Ziglar

“You don’t get in life what you want. You get what you are.” —Les Brown

“The ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.” -Albert Schweitzer

To live a pure unselfish life, one must count nothing as one’s own in the midst of abundance. Buddha

“If you are happy, at the expense of another man’s happiness, you are forever bound”. Buddha

Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them -Matthew 7:12

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can`t help them, at least don`t hurt them” Dalai Lama

Find someone else to make happy, and then happiness will find you – unknown

So what should you “DO”?

Ask and answer these 3 questions to create an amazing 2011.

• How and when are you making it about you? The more attention you put on yourself, the less attention you put on others. How can you help others get what they want if you are not paying attention?

• Who are you in service to? And what is in it for them? If your answer has anything to do with you, try again.

• When you interact with someone do you leave them better than you found them? Is the conversation about you? Or about them? Are you giving advice or telling people what they should do? Your judgments and opinions are about you… and only you. Try again.

These are three of the most difficult things in life to do. Get your attention off yourself and on to others, be truly in service, and stop telling people what to do. However, if you can manage to do all that, and get and stay in service you will have the most amazing year yet.

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