Getting Coached but Still Feel Stuck? 7 Reasons Your Coaching May Not Be Working (And What to Do Instead)

Let’s be real—not all coaching is created equal. You’re a high performer, which means you don’t have time for vague advice, cookie-cutter frameworks, or someone just hyping you up without real direction.

If you’ve invested in coaching but still feel stuck, unclear, or like something isn’t clicking, here’s why:

1️⃣ Your Coach is Listening to What You Say—Not What You Mean

Most people don’t actually say what they want—they say what they think they want. And if your coach isn’t sharp enough to spot the difference? You’ll waste months solving the wrong problem.

🔹 Example: You say, “I need help with time management.” A surface-level coach gives you a planner.

🔹 Truth: You don’t need better time management—you need clarity on what actually deserves your time.

🚀 Fix It: Work with someone who doesn’t just listen—but reads between the lines.

2️⃣ You’re Being Coached on Tactics Instead of Your Own Brilliance

A lot of coaches focus on “do this, then do that” tactics. But if you don’t even know where you’re going, more tactics just make you run in circles.

🔹 Tactics help you move.

🔹 Tapping into your brilliance makes sure you’re moving in the right direction.

🚀 Fix It: If your coaching isn’t helping you zoom out and see the bigger picture, you’re stuck in the weeds. You need clarity first, then action.

3️⃣ Your Coach is Agreeing With You Too Much

If your coach is validating everything you say instead of challenging your assumptions, they aren’t helping you grow.

🔹 Growth doesn’t come from feeling comfortable.

🔹 Growth comes from being challenged to see things differently.

🚀 Fix It: Work with someone who isn’t afraid to tell you the truth. Even when it’s uncomfortable. Especially when it’s uncomfortable.

4️⃣ Your Coach has a “One-Size-Fits-All” Framework

A framework might work for some people—but you’re not some people. You’re a high performer, and your challenges are more nuanced.

🔹 The problem with pre-packaged coaching? It assumes your situation fits inside the box.

🔹 The best coaching? It’s custom. It meets you where you are and adapts to your specific needs.

🚀 Fix It: Stop trying to fit yourself into someone else’s blueprint. Find a coach who tailors their process to YOU.

5️⃣ You’re Focusing on the Wrong Problem (And So is Your Coach)

Most high performers don’t struggle with action—they struggle with alignment.

🔹 Example: You think you need help scaling your business. But deep down, you actually need clarity on whether you even want to scale at all. 🔹 If you don’t solve the right problem, every solution will feel off.

🚀 Fix It: Work with someone who helps you uncover what’s really keeping you stuck.

6️⃣ You’re Being Given Motivation, Not Clarity

A great pep talk feels good in the moment. But what happens when the call ends?

🔹 Motivation fades. Clarity lasts.

🔹 If your coach is pumping you up instead of breaking things down, you’re on the wrong path.

🔹 You don’t need someone cheering from the sidelines—you need someone helping you see the play.

🚀 Fix It: Seek a coach who challenges your thinking, reveals blind spots, and helps you cut through the noise.

7️⃣ You’re Waiting for Your Coach to Give You the Answer

A great coach won’t tell you what to do. A great coach will help you see the truth so clearly that the right answer becomes obvious.

🔹 If you’re waiting for someone to hand you the blueprint, you’re outsourcing your own clarity.

🔹 The best coaching gives you the tools to think sharper, see deeper, and move faster—not just follow directions.

🚀 Fix It: Stop looking for answers. Start looking for clarity.

So What’s Next?

If your coaching isn’t giving you clarity, challenging your thinking, or helping you see what’s real, it’s time to work with someone who will.

🔥 I help high performers see between the lines, cut through confusion, and get into reality—so they can move with clarity and confidence.

If that’s what you’re looking for, let’s talk. 🚀